A Simple Eulogy Template (That Doesn't Sound Like a Template)

When you're overwhelmed, a structure is a kindness. Here is one that works for almost anyone, in almost any tradition.

1. Open with an image

Begin in a scene, not a statement. "Every Sunday, Grandpa was already at the stove by six." Avoid "We are gathered here today."

2. Introduce yourself

One or two sentences. "I'm Alex, and Maria was my sister."

3. Tell three stories

Story one — who they were

Choose one quality and prove it with a moment.

Story two — what they loved

Their passion, their work, their hobby — told as a scene, not a résumé.

Story three — the heart

What you'll miss most, or how they changed the people around them.

4. Mention others gently

If you're naming other people, weave them in — "Dad, you know exactly what I mean" — rather than reading a list.

5. Close by speaking to them

Turn from the room to your loved one. Short. Warm. Final.

Filling it in

Read each section aloud as you write it. If a sentence sounds like a greeting card, replace it with a real detail. Specifics are what make a template disappear.